Ten Golden Rules To Having Safe S*x

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It is always smart to talk about s*x with your partner, a peer educator or a healthcare professional before you make the decision to have s*x. While s*xual intercourse always involves some risk of pregnancy or s*xually transmitted disease, there are definitely ways of making your s*xual experiences safer. Here are 10 simple things you can do, say and think about now before you have s*x:

1. Talk smart s*x first. Have smart s*x later. STIs and unintended pregnancies affect both partners, not just one person. If you feel uncomfortable discussing s*x and birth control with your partner, then you shouldn’t be having s*x. Be straightforward and talk about s*x beforehand so both partners know what to expect. It’s easier to be rational and reasonable before you’re in the “heat of the moment.”

2. Don’t feel pressured to have s*x. Or have s*x out of fear – fear of hurting someone’s feelings by saying no or fear of being the “only one” who isn’t doing it. Virtually everyone wants to fit in with his or her friends, but you should never compromise your values to be “part of the crowd.” If you don’t want to have s*x, be honest, discuss the reasons behind your decision with your partner and stay true to you.

3. Don’t abuse alcohol/use drugs if you think things could get physical. Drug use or alcohol abuse interferes with decision-making, which can lead to date rape, forgetting to use contraceptives or contracting an STI. The lowering of inhibitions that often accompanies alcohol use might make you think you’ll enjoy s*x more, but in fact, for a variety of biochemical reasons, too much alcohol actually makes s*x less enjoyable for both men and women.

4. Two are better than one. To help prevent both pregnancy and STIs, you should correctly and consistently use a birth control method like the Pill, contraceptive injection or diaphragm (for pregnancy prevention) and a condom (to prevent STIs). Condom use is essential, especially in relationships that are not monogamous. If your partner says no to contraceptives that may prevent STIs, like condoms, it’s probably time to rethink your relationship. Nothing is worth the potential lifetime consequences of a few minutes of unprotected fun.

5. Use the buddy system. If you go to a party or a bar, go with friends and keep an eye out for each other. Agree that you won’t leave with another person without telling someone. Sometimes a friend’s “second opinion” could help prevent you from making decisions that you might regret later.

6. Remember that “no” means NO and passed out doesn’t mean YES. Being drunk isn’t a defense for committing s*xual assault. If you are too drunk to understand a person trying to say no; if you are too drunk to listen and respect a person saying no; or if you have s*x with somebody who is passed out or incapable of giving consent, it can be considered rape. Click here to read about how men and women can avoid the consequences of date rape.

7. Respect everyone’s right to make his/her own personal decision – including yourself. There is no imaginary “deadline,” no ideal age, no perfect point in a relationship where s*x has to happen. If your partner tells you that he or she is not ready to have s*x, respect his/her decision, be supportive and discuss the reasons behind it. It is everyone’s ultimate right to decide when and how they have s*x – be it the first time or the tenth time.

8. Be prepared for a s*x emergency. Consider carrying two condoms with you just in case one breaks or tears while it’s being put on. Both men and women are equally responsible for preventing STIs, using contraceptives and both should carry condoms. Sometimes things go wrong even when you try to do everything right. Women should also know about emergency contraception or EC. Taken within 72 hours of intercourse, EC may prevent pregnancy.

9. The best protection doesn’t mean less affection. Abstinence is actually the most effective way to protect against STIs and prevent pregnancy. But practicing abstinence doesn’t mean you can’t have an intimate physical relationship with someone – it just means you don’t have vaginal or anal intercourse. There are many other ways to be intimate and not have intercourse – just be aware that alternatives, like oral s*x, carry their own risks.

10. Make s*xual health a priority. Whether you are having s*x or not, both men and women need to have regular check-ups to make sure they are s*xually healthy. Women should have annual gynecological exams.....
   

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