"I Was Offered N5 Million To Sleep With Another Woman's Husband"

"I Was Offered N5 Million To Sleep With Another Woman's Husband": ‘I want you to seduce my husband’ she said

I choked on the glass of juice I was drinking.

Mrs Ali is in her forties, and she’s been married to one of the wealthiest men in the country for 14 years.

She’s not pretty, but not ugly either. Very well groomed and classy, a fit size 12 and mother of two.

‘Ma?’ I said.

She said ‘I will pay you well. I’m not happy. He’s a good husband but I don’t feel anything for him. I need an excuse to leave him.’

For once in my life, I actually didn’t know what to say.

‘I will pay you N5M, I can give u N1M advance now’ she said as she looked into my eyes.

‘Can I think about it?’ I asked

‘You have 24 hours’ she said.

‘Why always me?’ I thought as I drove out of her mansion on Banana Island. ‘How do I get myself into such situations?’

Let me first explain how I know her. Six months ago, I quit my boring office job and started various businesses. I’m into oil and gas. I find buyers for diesel and I make good money. I also sell jewellery to wealthy women. Gold and diamonds mostly. One of my Dubai (ex) lovers introduced me to the business, and it’s been good, I definitely can’t work for anyone ever again.

The wealthy ladies are an interesting and entertaining bunch. Some married, some single. They all loved my jewellery and wanted to be the best dressed at all times. I had to use common sense, charm and flattery to make sure everyone was happy.

Mrs Ali was one of my best customers. She never owed and was very pleasant. We were fast developing an older sister/younger sister relationship. Well, at least that’s what I thought.

I have been involved with many married men before. Some for money and some for fun, but this was different.

I have never been approached by a wife to sleep with her husband.

She said ‘It should be easy. You are his type: slim on top with big hips and bum….’

She seemed to have everything planned. I would pose as a bank marketer trying to get him to put money in my bank and offer to sleep with him in exchange. When we got to it, she would burst in and pretend to be devastated and outraged. The next day, she would move out with the kids.

I couldn’t sleep that night. I tossed and turned. 5M is a lot of money to be paid for just seducing someone.

At 8am the next day I called her and said ‘Good morning Ma, make it 10M, pay through bank transfer upfront and I’ll do it’.

She said ‘Done!’ And hung up.

What would you do if you were me?

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10 Things Girl Probably Doesn't Know About Guys

1. Guys are more emotional then they think, if they loved them truly.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep,they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

4. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

5. Guys are more emotional than they'd like people to think.

6. Girls are guys' weaknesses.

7. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

8. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying "come and listen to me."

9. No guy can handle all his problems on his own.He's just too stubborn to admit it.

10. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible♥

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Q.U.E.S.T.I.O.N: Is Blow J Important In A Relationship

Q.U.E.S.T.I.O.N: Is Blow J Important In A Relationship: Please could you pose this question to your male readers. Is a BJ that important to them that they would refuse to be in a relationship with a lady who would not give it to them?

I think it is a disgusting act and I've vowed never to indulge in it and so in all the relationships I've been in I tell my boyfriends that I don't do BJs. They seem okay with it initially but after some time they start giving excuses not to be in a relationship with me anymore.

I didn't know what the problem was until my last boyfriend opened up to me and said he couldn't stay in a permanent relationship with a woman who would not give him head and said it was probably the same reason all my past relationships didn't work out.

Are all the women out there giving their men BJs? Am I alone in this? Would I ever find a man who doesn't care if he gets head from me or not?

So dear men, is it that important to you folks?

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Here Are The 10 Marriage Rules You Must Follow

Here Are The 10 Marriage Rules You Must Follow: Every married person knows to be faithful, stay truthful and be there for their partner through good times and bad–they’re in the wedding vows, after all.

But most seasoned couples would admit that some unspoken rules are vital for getting past rough patches and growing stronger as a couple. Here, experts share 10 of the less apparent (but just as important) marriage rules to live by.

1. Don’t criticize your partner’s parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That’s why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband’s dearest friends. Even when he’s venting to you, your contributions can put him on the defensive. When you take position A, you prompt your partner to take position B. Instead,, put yourself in his position so that you can empathize with him.

2. Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your , keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex. If there’s nothing to hide, why hide it? That leads to an air of secrecy and dishonesty.

3. Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend your ear, but avoid speaking in an “I know what’s best” tone. We give advice because we’re trying to be helpful, but it’s seen as criticism when we offer too many corrections. This goes for everything from your husband’s outfit choices to how he deals with a work issue. Give your spouse space to make decisions and gain confidence through trial and error-and ask that he do the same for you. What matters in a relationship is not that things get done ‘right,’ but that two people are dedicated to contributing to each other’s happiness.”

4. Don’t take charge all the time. The spouse who does the rescuing can become tired of that role and resentful that everything is on her shoulders, even if she volunteered for that burden. Get in the habit of asking your partner, “What do you think works best here?” These requests will foster the idea that you’re teammates.

5. Don’t bring up past arguments. Or at least put a statute of limitations on them. People repeat ancient disagreements because they haven’t resolved the problem. Letting things fester often causes marriages to break down. It’s important to address issues as they happen and come to some sort of resolution–agreeing to disagree counts. Leave it there, and respect each other’s opinion.

6. Choose your battles, but don’t stifle your feelings. You have to be able to say, ‘this isn’t important.’” Or if it is, speak up. Tell your partner why it bothers you and that you’d like to work on a solution. You’d be surprised what you could learn about each other. It’s also important to understand that he’s not plotting to upset you every time he’s sloppy or forgetful.

7. Don’t post private thoughts or photos publicly. You may not want to be tagged in a politically charged rant he starts or he may not want you to share photos of the kids. And you each deserve the other person’s respect for those wishes. Discuss the ground rules regarding posting about yourself, as a couple and about the other person. And no matter what, don’t take your grievances with your husband to the masses for support. It’s destructive to air conflicts on Facebook.

8. Log off. When your attention is focused elsewhere, your spouse is bound to feel unimportant. So make quality time a top priority and restrict tech gadget use if necessary. Pay attention to the concept of ratio: How much time am I spending doing this compared to how much time I’m spending with my family?. Create a rule that works for your household and stick to it, whether it’s no devices at the dinner table, shutting down phones at 8 p.m. or going gadget-free on weekend afternoons.

9. Don’t use the “D” word (divorce, that is). Even in the heat of an argument, avoid threatening to pack your bags or head to the lawyer’s office. Besides the “D” word being downright hurtful, repeated warnings may result in a spouse calling the other’s bluff. We act as if the intensity of our anger gives us license to say or do anything. But threatening divorce is never useful, and it only makes the probability of separation more likely.

10. Be each other’s number one. In other words, be wary of outsider influence, like a friend putting relationship-threatening ideas in your head or work or hobbies competing for your attention. Happy couples have just as much conflict as those who divorce, but they know ways to get through it. A couple has to have a strong boundary around themselves and they can’t allow anybody to get in between.

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I Can't Stop Cheating On My Boyfriend

I Can't Stop Cheating On My Boyfriend: I had sex on the back seat of his car with a 25-year-old man last night. It was sheer madness – why do I do it? I’m going to lose my boyfriend at this rate.

I’m 36 and my boyfriend is 40. We go back years together as we had a relationship in our teens. I’m divorced 10 years after my husband cheated but my boyfriend has never married.

He moved away when he was in his early 20s and I thought I’d never see him again, but I ran into him in a bar in town when he was visiting his friends and it was like we’d never been apart.

We decided to start our relationship again but he still lives in another state and I only see him when he visits family near me or I travel to see him.

The relationship was casual at first so I’d see him when he was home and the rest of the time, I’d behave like a single girl. I meet guys on nights out and regularly have sex with strangers in their cars, at their homes or even in the loos.

I now have strong feelings for my boyfriend and I know the cheating has to stop but last night I was at it again with a guy who winked at me as I walked to the bar. He came up behind me and pinched my bottom and I fell for his ridiculous approach. We were having sex an hour later.

My family and friends think that my boyfriend is for keeps and that I should stop my antics. I know they’re right but it’s a habit that is just so hard to break.

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Please Help: My Life Is Over And I Feel Like Committing Suicide

Please Help: My Life Is Over And I Feel Like Committing Suicide: I feel like my life is just ending, so many bad things are happening to me and am so depressed, I need help because not even a psychiatrist can save me from this one. 

Recently I got pregnant from my boyfriend and when I told him, he dumped me. More than that, he beat me severely. Then he threw some cash and told me to get rid of the baby because he did not want anything to do with the bastard or me. I am an orphan, so I don’t have any one to talk to and to support me. 

I asked a friend for advice about the best quacks and she took me to one of them. The doctor performed the abortion successfully, but now I can get rid of visions about this unborn child. I feel like I’ve done the worst mistake in my life. 

After all this I was too depressed and as I went home from school two days after the abortion, I met a bunch of hooligans who attacked me and as a result raped me. They left me almost dead at the street, but Good Samaritans who found me carried me to hospital. 

I am discharged from hospital now, but I think am just followed by too many bad things. Can you imagine that even the doctor at the hospital trying to seduce me? 

What is wrong with me? I feel like committing suicide and run away from all these problems.

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Most Men Between 40 And 70 Will Suffer From Impotence

Most Men Between 40 And 70 Will Suffer From Impotence: Attention dysfunction (ED), also known as impotence, is the inability to get and maintain an Attention that is sufficient for satisfactory intimate intercourse.

ED is a very common condition, particularly in older men. It is estimated that half of all men between the ages of 40 and 70 will have it to some degree.

ED can have a range of causes that can be both physical and mental (psychological). 

Physical Causes Include:

Narrowing of the blood vessels going to the joystick – commonly associated with high blood pressure (hypertension), high cholesterol or diabetes

Hormonal problems

Surgery or injury

Psychological causes of ED include:

anxiety, depression, relationship problems

Diagnosis

Although you may be embarrassed, it is important that a healthcare professional diagnoses ED so that the cause can be identified.

ED can usually be diagnosed after a consultation with your doctor. This will involve answering questions about your symptoms, as well as a physical examination and some simple tests.

How is erectille dysfunction treated?

ED is primarily treated by tackling the cause of the problem, whether this is physical or psychological.

The narrowing of the arteries (called atherosclerosis) is one of the most common causes of ED. In these cases your GP may suggest lifestyle changes, such as losing weight, to try to reduce your risk of cardiovascular disease. This may help to relieve your symptoms as well as improving your general health. You may also be given medication to treat atherosclerosis, such as cholesterol-lowering statins and drugs to reduce your blood pressure.

There are several treatment options that have proved very successful for ED. Medication, such as sildenafil (sold as Viagra), can be used to successfully manage it in at least two-thirds of men. Vacuum pumps that encourage blood to flow to the joystick and cause an Attention are also successful in 90% of cases.

Psychological treatments include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and sex therapy.

Overall, treatments for ED have improved significantly in recent years. These days most people are eventually able to return to successful intercourse.

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My Husband Is Having Low Sperm Count Wife Tells Court

My Husband Is Having Low Sperm Count Wife Tells Court: Many people have marriage problems, but how you handle yours is what makes the difference. A 35-year-old petty trader, Ajinatu Samuel, has asked the Agege Customary Court, Lagos, to dissolve her nine-year old union with her husband, Akinsola.
The couple had an engagement ceremony and their union yielded a son. Ajinatu told the court that her husband did not take care of her and he frequently beat her. She said whenever she got beat up, he would later come to beg her and claim that he did not know when he started beating her.

The trader said that her husband shunned his responsibility as the head of the family by not taking care of their child. She said she could not keep money in the house or her shop because Akinsola would steal it.

She accused her husband of excessive drinking and said she did not love him anymore. She narrated to the court how it took them a while before she conceived the pregnancy for their child.

She claimed her husband had a low sperm count and it took a lot of medical intervention before she could conceive. “The doctor told him that he had to take care of himself and come for treatment if he wanted us to conceive again, but he does not take care of himself,” Ajinatu said.

The mother of one told the court that she had bought her husband drugs, but she was not sure he took them.

However, 38-year-old Akinsola told the court that while he was wooing his wife, they never had the low sperm count problem. He told the court that he did not want to divorce his wife because she “knows me in-and-out.”

He acknowledged that he was unemployed and that it was true his brother was still in business but his goods perished last year. He said he trusted Ajinatu enough to introduce her to the business so that she could fend for the family while he searched for a job.

He told the court that his wife hadn’t said the real reason she wanted to quit the marriage, adding that he had gone to his wife’s village in order to settle their problem. “Her people settled everything but she was unhappy because my mother was not present at the meeting. She was away in Kaduna,” he said.

He told the court to grant him custody of the child if she insist on leaving him.

The court advised him to gather some money to start a business and stop lazing around. The court said that he was sending a wrong signal to his child with his attitude. The court president, Emmanuel Shokunle, adjourned the case till Nov. 28, 2012 for judgement.

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I Married A Man Old Enough To Be My Father, Now I’m In Love With His Son’ (Season:2)

I Married A Man Old Enough To Be My Father, Now I’m In Love With His Son’ (Season:2): We conclude in this edition the story of Phina, the young lady who got married to Mr Williams, a man in his 60s, old enough to be her dad.

When we returned from our honeymoon, he made me the Managing Director of the company. I was so excited about amassing wealth for myself and my family, even though I didn’t have any jot of love for him. However, I still took my job seriously.

Eight months later, my husband informed me that his son, Morgan, had finally decided to relocate to Nigeria to join the company. At first, I was not too happy about this development because I felt my husband’s attention will shift from me to his son. Also, Morgan would want to monitor every move I made in the office, especially when it came to the company’s finances. But on a second thought, I felt it was a good idea.

I fell in love with his photos the first day his father showed them to me. “O my God, he is so handsome,” I said. “He looks like me when I was his age,” his father revealed. “What will you do if he comes home with a white woman?” I asked. “I have no problem with that as long as they love each other,” he replied.

On the day of his arrival, my husband insisted I followed him to the airport to welcome Morgan. I happily agreed. When I eventually saw him in person, I fell instantly in love with him. When we got close to the car, his father introduced us. “Morgan, meet my darling wife, Phina, and darling meet my dear son, Morgan,” he said. We both knew there was this instant connection between us when we shook hands and exchanged pleasantries before finally driving home.

A week later, my husband held a meeting with the top management staff where he introduced Morgan as the Executive Director of the company. He revealed that he would be retiring soon and therefore pleaded with everyone to work in peace and unity with his wife and son. “I will be retiring very soon since I am no longer physically strong, but that does not mean I will not come here to see what is happening from time to time. However, I plead with everyone to work in accord with my wife and son,” he had pleaded. The truth is that the doctor advised my husband not stress himself anymore because of his health condition; he suffers from high blood pressure and diabetes.

About three months after Morgan resumed in office as the Executive Director, I had gone to his office one morning to discuss some pending issues with him. Before we knew it, we were all over each other. Finally, he asked me what I saw in his father that made me marry him. “Phina something has been bothering me and I feel this is the perfect time to ask you.

You are young and beautiful. What did you see in my father that made you marry him?” Morgan asked. “Your father is a very nice and caring man,” I replied. “I can bet my life that you don’t even love him. I am sure you are only attracted to his wealth,” he insinuated. “Say whatever you like, I am still his wife,” I retorted. “My father is too old for you. I am sure we are age mates. So why don’t we start something, that is if you want to. I actually like you a lot. 

Since we first saw at the airport, your beautiful face and smile stuck in my head,” he revealed. “I like you too but what do you mean by start something? Are you saying I should cheat on your father with you? I asked. “Phina, no need to pretend because we are both adults. There was an instant connection when we shook hands at the airport. Do you think I don’t notice the way you look at me and even dressed at home just to catch my attention? Will you say you wore those sexy bump shorts and lingerie’s just for an old man like my father?” he added. “You are so right. But what if your father finds out?” I quizzed. He assured me that if we play our cards well, his father will never have the slightest idea. That was how our love affair started.

We spend more time in his office or mine playing love rather than working. In no time, everyone in the office knew that we were having an affair.

At home, in order to spend quality time in the arms of Morgan, especially throughout the night, I devised a means. My husband does not go to bed without taking a cup of tea, so I started dropping sleeping tablets in his tea. But I normally return to our bedroom at 5:00 in the morning so that he would not suspect anything because he is used to waking up between 5:30 and 5:45 a.m. everyday including Saturdays and Sundays.

The tablets make him sleep like a log of wood till the next morning even though he would wake up complaining of tiredness. Whenever he complained, I always suggested that it might be his drugs since his doctor just changed his prescription. He reluctantly agreed with me but I knew deep inside of him, he was convinced that something was wrong. In fact, at a time, we suspected that he was suspicious of our affair although he never asked Morgan or me anything. From his spoken words and action, it pointed towards that direction.

We continued our escapade at home until that fateful day when he caught us making love. I had prepared his night tea as usual and even watched him drink it. I guess he played a fast one on us that night. I was with him in the room when he fell asleep, or so I thought, before sneaking to Morgan’s room as usual. About three hours later, while we were fast asleep in each other’s arms, someone tapped us on the leg at the same time. When we opened our eyes, it was him (my husband). He shook his head and walked out of the room.

Up till today, he has not said a word about that night. He still relates well with me and his son. However, his health condition has worsened. I know it is not right to marry for material gains but I have truly fallen in love with his son, Morgan even though I know it is wrong. My heart belongs to Morgan and not his father. Surprisingly, I am not ashamed of it. The other day, he called his lawyer to the house, and we are so sure he adjusted his will.

But the truth is that what do you expect when you have a young and beautiful lady like me, a handsome young man in my age range like Morgan, and a 62-year-old man under the same roof ? Of course, anything could happen. The chemistry between Morgan and I is unexplainable. However, what my husband (his dad) would do next, I do not know. The truth is that I love Morgan.

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The Art of the Kissing

The Art of the Kissing: The meeting of lips can evoke such a myriad of emotions and communicate your desires in a way that nothing else can quite compare. Even better, when you've got the skills, your lips become a weapon in the war of passion and lust.

If you're ready to tease and torture your love to a passionate exchange of heavy lip-locking, consider these tips and ideas.

Kissing 101: Techniques for Lovers
Want to get down to the nitty gritty of kissing like a sex goddess? First, start with the key elements to a great kiss -- pressure, duration, texture, and relaxation.

-Pressure
When it comes to pressure, you don't want to smash your lips into each other, but you don't want to feel like you're kissing air either. Find a happy medium that allows you to vary your intensity from gentle to passionate, depending on the mood.

-Duration
The duration of the kiss should correlate to the mood you are trying to create. If you want to be a teasing tart, quick and suggestive kisses would be a better choice. If you want to fill them with wanton longing and need, a longer, more passionate exchange would fit the bill.

-Texture
The condition of your lips is a very large part of your kissing experience. Make sure to keep them from getting overly chapped by using chapstick or lipstick regularly. Also, if you know you're going to have a heated exchange, save his lips
and avoid the extra lipstick.

-Relaxation
Relaxation is really only critical when it comes to your first kissing exchanges. You can completely blow a first kiss opportunity by being to rigid and stiff with your lips because of nerves. Just remember to enjoy the exchange. If you end up
spending your time worrying about your kiss, it will show and you'll have ruined the moment anyway.

Kissing 102: A Flirty Guide
Now that you've got the basics down, try exploring a little and getting creative with the tips below.

Did you know our brains have special neurons that help us find each other's lips in the dark? Add a sense of mystery and test out the science of kissing with an after-dark or blindfolded exchange.

Scents and tastes are all big turn-ons. Take advantage of this and use a little flavored lip gloss for an unexpected pleasure.

Mix things up and vary your kisses with your partner. Kiss harder, then lighter. Draw away from your partner to make them work for it a little bit and then give in and go all out. Play with your technique for the best results.

Don't just love the lips. Keep in mind there are other erogenous zones near the lips as well. Divert some of your attention to their jawbone, ears and throat.

Get caught up in the moment. Nothing ruins a kiss more than realizing your partner's just not that into it or their mind is on something else. If you're going to make-out, leave everything else behind you and just revel in the sensations.

Kissing 103: An Advanced Primer
If you're ready to take your kissing to the next level, these reader ideas might be just the ticket to spice things up.

-A Kiss to Remember
He surprises me every now and then with a kiss to remember. First he licks my upper and lower lips and then kisses them softly and passionately while he tenderly touches my hands. I've been with him for a while now and it still gets to me every time. Try it and see for yourself!
--submitted by Otas

-Breathe You In
This is a passionate way to love your partner. When you are both lying down and kissing, try putting your lips together and gently breathe into one another. He exhales while you inhale and vice versa. This is so romantic. I love to do this with my lover, hopefully you will too.
--submitted by Kate

-Brushed Kisses
When you go in to kiss your partner, give them one soft kiss on the lips, then brush your lips across theirs. Go back and forth about three or four times and then give another couple of soft kisses. This always leads to a more passionate kiss. If they try to kiss you while you're brushing against their lips, pull back a bit. My girlfriend does this to me and it drives me nuts, but I LOVE IT!
--submitted by Bayo

-Cooling Kisses
Start by gently kissing your partner's jaw line and as you kiss, blow on the spot that has just been kissed. It makes it tingle and feels so special!
--submitted by kemi

-Icy Hot Kisses
One of you sucks on an ice cube, while the other takes a sip of a hot drink. Then kiss! The chemistry created by this kiss is incredible!
--submitted by Nelly

-Make His Head Spin
On our fourth date, my wife, instead of just giving me a sweet kiss and nicely stepping out of the car, grabbed me by the tie, pulled me towards her and kissed me hard for three seconds. Then she let go, dashed out of the car and into her house. It's been some years since that happened and my head is still spinning!!
--submitted by Anonymous

-Taking Control
One thing I love to do with my boyfriend is to tease him a bit. First, I run my fingers along his lips, but pull away if he tries to kiss them. Then, I tell him that he isn't allowed to kiss me back or touch me at all, or else I will stop. I follow that up by slowly kissing every part of his lips and his mouth. While doing this, I run my hands over his body, but pull away if I feel him react at all. He said it drove him crazy! It's fun for both of you: a major turn-on for the receiver and the giver!
--submitted by Chidinma

-Teasing Kiss
My boyfriend and I love to tease each other while kissing. In the middle of a kiss, one of us leans back so the other has to move in to reach their lips. As they reach in, keep moving back a little further each time so they can't reach. This game
builds the anticipation of the kiss. Once they finally reach, it will be the most passionate and deep kiss you will ever have.
--submitted by Jenny

-Teasing Kisses
My favorite kiss begins like this…. First, I put my head on his shoulder, and start giving him little innocent kisses at the base of his neck. As I get farther up the neck, I open my mouth more, so it he feels the kisses a little more. By the time I reach his ear, he's going crazy. Then I stop with a little baby kiss,run my tongue up the outside curve of the ear, and then finally gently biting the earlobe. It helps to breathe a lot on his skin while doing this, because the air on the place where you lick tingles.
--submitted by Sue Baby

-Upside Down Kiss
The most playful and teasing way to kiss is upside down!... with your partner lying face up, start from the lips kissing them upside down...exploring and teasing kisses in this position can drive your partner crazy and who knows where
the kisses will lead!
--Submitted By Naijalyfe

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Most Read: What Men Want From Women

Most Read: What Men Want From Women: Matters about love making are often treated with so much discretion and this is the reason why some individuals are s*xually frustrated.

One of life's little pleasures is love making and let us remember that oral love making has been in practice for many years now. Of course I know this write up has a very sensitive topic but I really hope we can all approach it with a little light-warmheartedness.

The main aim of this write up is to help women become better women and part of this is helping women understand what men want and why they want it. Research shows that 95% of men love blow job. A good blow job requires d mutual cooperation of the lips, tongue, hand and a receptive gullet.

In-fact, if done properly it can bring the man to orgasm. In order for a woman to give a man a blow job she has to be submissive and connected to him. However, the main reason men love blow job is because it feels good.

There is just something about having their dick enveloped by the warm wetness of an insistent mouth and a rollicking tongue. It gets their blood boiling but women would ask "don't they get the same sensation been nestled inside a moist vagina?" Yes but that is if your vagina has a tongue.

If you don't want to give your man a blow job because you are afraid that you are goin to gag, well here's a trick you could try: place the tip of your tongue so it touches the roof of your mouth, then put in his dick and let it hit beneath your tongue. Do it at your own pace, it would give him the feeling like you are taking him all the way in.

So ladies please try to give your man's middle leg some lip loving.

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My boyfriend is not as Perfect as what I expect from Him, Should I marry him?

My boyfriend is not as Perfect as most of the men I have dated in the past. He is not as good looking as my best friend's boyfriend, but he is a great chef. He treats me like his sister and tells me a lot of things that a good father tells his daughter. He proposed marriage last night, but I need to think about his looks once again.






He is one of those happy people and even after we have been going out for over 6 months, I'm yet to find out what makes him happy almost all the time. He has a good job and his parents are great. I really cannot work it out in my head why his looks bother me.



Should I marry him?

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What Is The “Secret Sauce” That Makes A Happy Marriage Work?

What Is The “Secret Sauce” That Makes A Happy Marriage Work?: Many people resist it. The important thing to remember is that what couples need from each other evolves throughout life.

When they marry, most people say things like, “I love you just the way you are; don’t ever change!”—and they really mean it.

The notion that their spouse might change is scary and nonsensical to most newlyweds. Furthermore, popular opinion supports this idea, dictating that marriages fail because people change. But of course people change! All healthy people grow and change as they mature. It’s those who don’t change who find themselves trapped in unhealthy marriages. The truth is, most marriages don’t fail because people change, they fail because people don’t change.

Couples need to change and grow in order to invigorate and rejuvenate their relationship. Despite all we’ve been told about the power of love to surmount all odds, successful marriages don’t happen because two people fall in love; they happen when two people fall in love over and over again with each other. That can only happen when two people change together in whatever ways their lives and their marriage require.

If you accept this basic premise, a lot of the seemingly contradictory pressures of modern marriage make a lot more sense. As a marriage counselor and psychologist with more than fifteen years of experience, I often see men and women who feel like they just can’t win. It’s as if they’re living a life filled with relentless pressure: pressure to stay home with the kids and, at the same time, pressure to go to work and make more money; pressure to drop some of their old friends and old habits and develop new friends and new habits.

They also feel pressure to be tough and in charge, but also to be sensitive and vulnerable. They think that if they could just eliminate these pressures, their life and their marriage would be okay again.

Women often say things like, “He knew what I was like when he married me, and now he wants me to be different. He knew that I had a lot of hobbies and interests and that I didn’t like spending weekends at home being a couch potato.”

“It sounds like he wants a different wife,” I usually comment.

“Absolutely!” is the common response.

Men often say things like, “She knew what I was like when she married me, and now she wants me to be different. She knew that I liked to drink and hang out with my buddies and that I wasn’t particularly interested in talking about my feelings and stuff like that.”

To this, I usually respond, “It sounds like she wants a different husband.”

“Absolutely!” is the common response.

“So what am I supposed to do?” they both want to know.

My advice is usually the same. “It sounds like it’s time for a change,” I say. “It’s time for you to become the new spouse he (or she) is looking for!” - the one you both deserve.

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Reasons why Men Celebrity don't enjoy love making with their wives

Recently, studies have revealed that most Nigerian men do not enjoy sex with their wives. One out of every 3 marriages struggles with the problem of differing sex drives. And these had led to some of the major break ups in homes these days. Often the loss of sexual pleasure and intimacy results in depression, suspicion, anger, resentment, infidelity and divorce. Although it is clear that this issue is rarely one-sided, it is nevertheless surprising to many that it is often the man who puts the brakes on sexuality and the finger get pointed at the woman. In this report, BOLA AKINBOADE presents some of the reasons most Nigerian men don’t enjoy sex with their wives e as the level of intimacy between them also suddenly becomes cold.

SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY

Sexual incompatibility which leads to sexual disharmony and dissatisfaction is the major reason of break up in most marriages. Partners have different attitudes to sex. Your attitude towards sex depends on many factors, the major ones is upbringing and religion. If a girl was taught that sex is something dirty and shameful, than she is very unlikely to feel free and to be open to adventures. Most women refuse oral sex and consider it to be very dirty while men have quite the contrary opinion on this matter. In this situation both partners feel unhappy and sooner or later such a couple starts to experience problems, if unsolved, may lead to cheating or break up. Also if there is a discrepancy in the wife’s reproductive organ, such as tight vagina, this couple are likely to face some problems and this kind of sexual incompatibility can be very rarely resolved. Other factors that may also sexual incompatibility include; differences in the frequencies of sexual desire, different sexual appetite, and others. Most men seem to have a stronger sexual urge than their wives which they find difficult to meet up most of the time.

DIFFERENCES IN SEXUAL DRIVE

For some couples struggling with their relationship, a man may want more sex, while a woman feels their relationship doesn't have enough.
It is hard to expect sexual harmony if the husband wants sex 5 times a week, while the wife thinks that once time is enough. They simply have different sex drives. A woman’s sex drive differs from a man's .A man's sex drive is not so easily turned off. He has been hardwired to think about sex and want sex and, very rarely will a man find himself too tired or too stressed out to have sex. While the woman sex drive diminishes as she has to battle some of the marital issues. There are many things that can easily result in a loss of libido in women. Pregnancy, a hard day at work, the responsibilities of taking care of a home and family, hormonal fluctuation, depression, stress, less help and attention from her husband which was not this bad when they first got married.

LACK OF ADVENTURE

One of the reasons some men give for not enjoying sex with their wives is the fact that she is not sexually adventurous enough. For most couples, the extreme passion and desire of new style of love quickly subsides. During those first few months of lovemaking, everyone's adventurous to varying degrees of personal comfort level, because everyone's really on an adventure. It's all exciting, and it's all new. But in some couple of years, they passion begin to wane and the thrill is gone. Some women suddenly becomes uptight and all the effort by the husband to ignite back the fire seems unproductive.

BOREDOM

Another reason why some men don’t enjoy sex with their wives is boredom. Their sexual life at a point becomes monotonous, same place, same station, same way every time. Men like variety, and when a couple get stuck in a routine, the man is the first one to get dissatisfied with it. What was exciting once upon a time now seems dull. Some men may not be having sex with their wives because sex simply isn't worth the effort. They'd rather watch television.

ANGER

Anger and resentment is another reason some men not only enjoy having sex with their wives.Oftentimes, the anger remains unexpressed. This silent seething has the effect of Novocaine numbing many of the senses, including sexual desire.Many husbands get fed up with a nagging wife at home. And since the wife has become an annoying bully; he shuts down completely and withholds the only thing he thinks might hurt her.

DEPRESSION

Depression is another reason why some men don’t enjoy sex with their wife. Many times, the man may not even be aware that he is depressed over the stressful things in life-economic stress, career stres, not achieving things he wants and others. He is not aware that he has responded to the stress with anger, and the anger has moved into depression. He is not enthusiastic about having sex at all. Compounding the problem, some of the more common antidepressants can cause loss of libido or inability to perform sexually.A report says that antidepressants can have another negative effect on a relationship: it diminishes interest in connecting emotionally with a partner.

SHE GAINS A LOT OF WEIGHT AND BECOMES LESS ATTRACTIVE

Another reason men stop desiring their wives is because they no longer find them physically attractive, or suddenly gained so much weight. Many women do not take care of themselves. They go out of shape and lose out on their figure. At home, they do not take care of their appearances or dress up properly. Naturally, a man becomes fed up with his wife and found her attractive any longer. Men are visual, so excessive weight gain may indeed pose a problem for them. And since Obesity also diminishes libido, an over weight wife may not be as responsive as her partner.

EXTRA- MARITAL AFFAIR

Trying out something new is often a reason given by the husband for indulging in an extra-marital affair. He often feels he needs a change of taste and would like to spend time with someone who is “different” and perhaps “more exciting”. At times, the wife could also be responsible for the situation. A wife paying too much attention to children and household chores often forces a man to go in for relationships outside marriage. He feels neglected. He wants more attention and since he is not getting it at home he prefers to get it from an outsider. And even though he doesn’t have any desire to leave his wife, sometimes the man feel guilty of this act which limits the full expression of his love and desire for his wife. And when he is getting so much fun and varieties from outside, it will be difficult to enjoy the boring and monotonous one from his wife which no longer gets him aroused. 

source: talkofnaija

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Husband Got Best Friend Pregnant Would You Forgive Him

Ematai

It is terrible what some men can do because of the inability to control themselves. Maybe, it shouldn’t be called a lack of control, but an intentional act done to spite their wives or the women in their lives.

My ex- husband is a good example of the epitome of lack of control in men. Each time I think of his last escapades, l still wonder if it is possible for Femi not to have known that Amanda, the lady he met abroad is still the same childhood best friend whose photographs he had seen severally in my collections.

Amanda and I did everything together while we were growing up. We went to the same primary school and the same University. We were even posted to the same state during youth service.  We had everything in common except for the men in our lives. In fact, we nearly liked the same men and it showed each time one of us brings home a guy.

Amanda got a visa to Britain, but it didn’t stop our friendship. We couldn’t always talk much because of the expensiveness of international calls, we couldn’t even do mails because Cyber café was just a new development and computers was just finding their way into the country to the very rich.

So as I was getting married, Amanda couldn’t make it to the wedding because she didn’t have a stay at that time and we decided that she shouldn’t come because she might not be able to go back if she dares it. The marriage formality was done and life went to normal with the twins coming and the girl following two years after.

It was exactly five years into my marriage when this seemingly impossible episode took place. My husband had being a playboy, but for some time, he had being acting like a changed man. So l thought all was well with my family.  I thought he had finally settled down to enjoy being a dad to our children and a husband and friend to me.

His company sent him abroad for a six months course and we practically spoke every other day while he was there. He returned back and I got a call from my best friend, she said she was coming to Nigeria for her marriage and l was happy for her, she also said that she was already pregnant for the man in question.

Amanda came to town and rented a place, so most of the times l visit her because Femi returns from the office late and the children stay back at school for their  lessons. I found out her husband to be’s name is also Femi with my Femi’s surname. I was surprised, but saw it as a coincidence; it was on one of my visits to her place that l met her fiancé who happens to be my own …

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No way! – Ematai, Artiste

This is a very difficult one and I do not think I can take it from my husband if l were to be in the wife’s shoes, no matter the amount of begging from him. And as for my friend, it is not her fault because she hasn’t met my husband or seen his photograph.

Ematai

My husband took advantage of an innocent woman by lying that he wasn’t married. I cannot live with any man who could lie that bad to the extent of doing that to somebody who hasn’t offend him before. It only means that this type of husband would one day have a home number two and you the wife wouldn’t know a thing about it until probably he dies.

I would walk away with children and l hope my friend does the same thing too because what he has done to me, he would do it to another.


Forgive him, but with… Chidiebere Aneke, Actress

It would be a tough one for me because the law says ignorance is not an excuse. Why did he cheat on me in the first place? Honestly, I would be devastated, but l will ask God for strength to forgive him and still stay in the marriage.

Ogechi Okafor

I naturally hate divorce and I am sure my own parents must have passed challenges while l was growing up. It is not the problem that is the issue, but how you overcome it. As for my friend, she would keep the pregnancy because there would not be any thought of abortion from my angle. Together we shall see what God has in mind for us at the long run, but as for sharing my husband, l would not ever do that.
Walk away- Ogechi Okafor, Artiste

He is claiming he didn’t recognize my own best friend, but he has being seeing her photographs since he married me. He is also aware that she lives in Britain and yet he claims it is a mistake? What was he planning to do, to have another home somewhere while l live like the fool?

I do not think l married a fool as a husband who would not know the difference between a photograph of five years and the real person of today. I believe my girl friend would love me enough to leave that type of man for good. And as for me, that marriage is over because I would walk away and pick up the pieces of my life without a thought of him.

By Florence Amagiya

Source: Vanguard

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Nadia Buari Snatches Beauty Queen's Husband

As you apprehend this, sources say Nadia Buari has become a chambermaid lover of Delta State big boy politician, Joseph Tomowu. The botheration about is that the man is affiliated to the aboriginal anytime Miss Delta Soap, Nora Anusionwu, with three kids. According to sources,...
Nora lives in London with the kids.

Very abutting bodies to the brace say the adulterous activity amid Nadia and Joseph came to the accessible aback Nora abreast her bedmate that she was advancing home for Christmas with the kids -- article they commonly do every year.

Surprisingly, Joseph against the abstraction this time and told his wife to break aback in the UK awaiting his return. As it is now, the "original wife" accept gotten wind of the acumen her bedmate asked her to break activity and 'a awe-inspiring war is about to booty place'.

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7 Ways to Deal With a Nagging Girlfriend

Nagging is one of the most irritating cliches of relationship. If you have a nagging girlfriend you need to get it under control before she drives you out the door. Be honest, sometimes her nagging is justified but now that it has become a barrier in your relationship you need to do something. Follow these steps to get your girlfriend to stop nagging you.

1. Listen when she talks. For many relationships, nagging occurs because your girlfriend feels you ignore her. Start by listening when she talks. Be aware that if she is nagging in the middle of the ball game, you cannot stop her. Instead when the game is over it is time to sit down together and talk out your issues. Once she sees you are willing to do so, she should stop interrupting future games.

2. Ask what she wants. Your girlfriend might be nagging about the dishes in the sink when she is really upset about something else. She might want you to take her out to dinner and the dishes are just how that complaint is manifesting itself. Ask her and then listen to her answer.

3. Share the chores. If your girlfriend is nagging about housework, she probably has a point. Does she do all the cooking, cleaning and laundry? What do you offer to the relationship? Your girlfriend wants to be your partner, not your maid. She works too so complaining that you worked all day is not sufficient and devalues the fact that she did the same. Get up and do your part.

4. Stop over-promising. You might think that agreeing when she nags is the best thing to get her off your back. The problem is that when you agree and then don’t do what you agreed to, you have just upset her more. Instead, listen to what she is asking you to do then either say no or find a compromise. If you agree, if you promise to do something, then do it. Then she will stop nagging you about it.

5. Keep her updated. Your girl might just be suffering from the space between you. If you don’t talk to her or tell you what’s going on, she has to ask which you might take as nagging. If you promised to clean the garage, then tell her when you will do it. If something happens to change that, tell her and arrange for another time. Keep your girlfriend updated and she will see that you value the promises you make to her.

6. Provide constructive responses. Avoid telling her to stop nagging. Most women hate nagging you as much as you hate them doing it. Instead when you are talking together, setting goals and making promises, provide her with some constructive criticism. Say to her, “When you ask me to do something, I will do it but in my own time and when you repeat yourself I feel that you don’t trust me to do what I agreed to do.” Make the statement about you and your feelings not about what she is doing wrong.

7.Spend time with her. If the nagging in your relationship is motivated by your girlfriend feeling ignored then the only way to fix it is to spend time with her. Take her out or watch TV together in the evening. Find what she enjoys and try to do it together. Time may be all you need.

Stop your girlfriend nagging with these simple steps. If you put in the time, you will reap the rewards of a more peaceful and loving relationship.

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Man Dumped By Fiancee After Selling Kidney To Buy Engagement Ring

A hopeless romantic man wants to buy his girlfriend the engagement ring of her dreams, but alas, he doesn’t have the means to make it happen. Many men will sell some of our possessions to raise the extra cash. We’ve seen guys trade in cars, guitars and collectibles, but this resourceful one in the Ukraine decided to sell his kidney on the black market. Our Ukrainian friend made out with £12,300 GBP (about $21,000 USD), which according to Blue Nile would return about a two-carat, ideal-cut diamond.

The kicker: She dumped him. No word as to whether he kept the receipt to get the kidney back.

Apparently the concept of “make sure she’ll say yes before getting the ring and proposing” isn’t a widely known one, as Cowboys receiver Roy Williams faced a similar issue (minus the kidney sale) when he presented his girlfriend with a $75,000 engagement ring.
Investigations revealed that kidneys are at times sold for as much as £25,000. Though most sellers agree that greed and the zeal to pay off their debts are the main motivating factors, they also claim the move could help save lives of those in need of the organs.

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Kate Henshaw Talks About Her Failed Marriage and Why Men Cheat On Their WIves

Popular Nollywood actress Kate Henshaw in this interview talks about her failed marriage, about men roaming around, about being an Onga brand ambassador among others.
Read the full interview below:

    ”Onga it’s a brand that I have grown to love and like I said in some of my previous interviews, I didn’t know anything about the brand until I took up this appointment. Now it’s a brand I love and have convinced a lot of people to try.

    I was just picked. I didn’t compete with any one; the MD just called me and asked me if I could take up the appointment.
    My husband just talked about me; he told them his wife could help boost the brand and they decided to give it a shot.
    I don’t know if he is complaining since it was him who added to my duties. If he is; it’s a pity, because I have come to love it more than anything else.
    I have a feeling that he does… this feeling of you are not always around… and when you are, it’s either you are attending one event or another. I feel it; I sense it. I know it’s tough, but hey, looks like I can’t help it.

    If he wants to be taken; he is a free person. My dear, marriage is not a bondage o. If he decides to roam around, well… in any case, you men always roam.
    The society always blames the woman, but I believe that every woman should be independent; but let me tell you something, if you want a person to stay when the person does not want to stay, there is nothing you can do about it. You can only do your best and leave the rest to God. I believe every woman should be working or doing something instead of just sitting at home. God forbid, if anything happens and you don’t have anything to fall back on, too bad, you will be lost. I have come to a stage now that all I do is to make myself happy and do what I think is right. People will always talk, no matter how good you are.

    What about Omotola (actress Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde)? Her husband is a Nigerian and she is travelling all over the place. She runs an NGO and a music career that puts her on the move… there are so many other people and it doesn’t matter the race; if a man is a good man and he is confident in himself, he will let you be what you want to be. Because that is what completes both of you; that is what makes both of you happy; bringing whatever you have been able to make to the family.
    What about J-Lo (Jennifer Lopez) and Mac Anthony, they have split up. After six years of marriage. I don’t know for whatever reason but you and I know that she is busy and he is busy and I know that she is busier than he is. May be there is an effect there; may be some kind of threat or insecurity. But that’s the fact, when they part ways they are not enemies, each person wishes the other person well and life moves on.

    That’s how marriage and divorce should be. There shouldn’t be any rancour especially when children are involved. I mean, my mum left my dad and hey, it hasn’t affected me… sorry, it did at a point but I have moved on.
    About my daughter, I feel really guilty most of the time for not being around her, but good enough, she seems to understand. And the little time that we spend together, I try to make quality out of it. We talk at length; we go to the cinema and do all sorts together. She does understand that this is the nature of my job. There was a time she came home and asked, mummy are you on twitters? And I said yes, then she said one of her friends in school said she follows me on twitters. And I said oh, that’s embarrassing but you know she is so grown up now and her speech so profound.

    My daughter is lonely…, she is sometimes. Because even her dad is busy; he works and travels and that is what you get when both parents are the busy type. But I try during the holiday season to create a family time by trying to let go what ever trip that is not so compulsory.
    My low moment is such that since I have turned forty, I should try and spend more moments with my daughter really. I think about this a lot and it bothers me. And I intend to effect that change. As she is growing up before you know it, she’s gone to boarding house and I won’t be seeing her as much. Before you know it, she is already 20 and she is going to her husband’s house and I hardly know her… I intend to spend more time with her”.

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Best Christmas Gifts For Your Boyfriend

Exchange of gifts is considered one of the best ways to express love and affection to your beloved, during ceremonious occasions. When it comes to Christmas, gift giving becomes an inevitable tradition. In fact, the festival becomes even more special, when love is in the air and when you want to give pleasant surprises to your significant half. Choosing Christmas gifts for your boyfriend can be a daunting task, because guys are sometimes difficult to shop for. You would want to present him something special, which he would cherish for the lifetime, isn’t it? Hence, we are here to help you with some bright ideas for choosing the most appropriate Christmas presents for your boyfriend.

Top 10 Christmas Gift Ideas For Boyfriends

Wooden Picture Frame

A wide variety of wooden picture frames, of various shapes and sizes are available in the market. A heart shaped picture frame will be the most romantic one. Insert your photo in the frame to give the Christmas gift a personal touch.

Jar Of Messages

Make each day of the holiday season special for your boyfriend. Buy a midsize jar and fill it with mini envelopes on which you have written love messages. Let him open one envelope on each day. You may also fill the jar with candy bars, to make the Christmas gift even sweeter!

Hand-Knit Muffler

Your hand-knit muffler will keep your boyfriend warm on the chilly winter season, as well as show your warmth for him! Stitch your name or initial on the muffler, to make the present even more special for him. Make sure that you choose his favorite color.

Silver Ring

Silver ring is one of the most popular Christmas presents for boyfriends. It looks quite stylish and trendy. In order to customize the ring, ask the retailer to carve his name or initial on it.

Wrist Watch

If your boyfriend loves to have his own collection of wristwatches, then presenting a wrist watch to him will be a great idea! Surprise him with his favorite wristwatch and see the sparkle in his eyes!

Designer Sunglasses

Sunglasses are considered an important fashion accessory for men. Make sure that the sunglasses you choose perfectly suits the facial shape, complexion and hair color of your boyfriend. Choose one, which can be paired with both formal and casual attire.

T-Shirt

T-shirt with funny slogan is a good Christmas gift for your boyfriend. You can also opt for custom t-shirt. Express your heartfelt feelings to your boyfriend by imprinting a love message on it.

Gift Certificates

This Christmas season, pamper your boyfriend by giving him gift certificate for Jacuzzi bath or spa treatment. You may also give him gift coupons for shopping at his favorite shoes and clothing outlet.

Gift Basket
Wine, coffee and chocolates are some of the most preferred items assorted in gift baskets. You may also given an assortment of grooming products as Christmas gift for your boyfriend.

Gadgets

If your boyfriend is tech-savvy, then go for iPod, MP3 player, mobile phone, handy cam or latest digital camera.

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